Happiness often seems like an unattainable thing, something that everyone wants but few people actually have. It also seems like it’s something that must be given or something you have to stumble upon in order to get it, not something that you can actually get for yourself. However, this couldn’t be further from the truth. You can actually learn how to be happy and create happiness in your own life with these simple secrets.
The key to learning how to be happy is intent. You have to be intent on being happy. It’s a choice, and it’s one that you must make daily. You must be committed to it and willing to take action to get there. Waiting for happiness to come to you is a little bit like being a venus fly trap sitting on the kitchen windowsill. You’re waiting for the fly, but a kid comes over and sticks his finger in your leaves for kicks, just to watch you react. You close, ready for your prize, only to realize you’ve come up completely empty. Be intent on creating your own happiness and don’t be afraid to go after what makes you happy.
Invest in Gratitude
In today’s society, we’re filled with images from the media that tell us that we aren’t good enough or that we don’t have enough, and we need this or that to be “happy.” It’s clever and often effective marketing, but it’s also untrue. Even so, today’s world makes it difficult to be grateful, since we’ve been trained to look for the next thing we want or need instead. Break free of this mindset by continually looking for things in your life that you already have that you are grateful for. I promise, when you really look, you will find no shortage of them. Invest in gratitude and make a point to see everything in your life that you can be happy about. If you need to, write it down. Wake up with a mindset of, “I’m going to find 10 things I’m grateful for today.” You’ll be surprised at how simple and easy this task can be. For example, if you’ve ever paid a $1,200 plumbing bill, you’ll be extremely grateful when your toilet flushes in the morning.
When someone does something to hurt you, it’s hard not to be unhappy. But dwelling on it and letting negative thoughts consume you robs you of your happiness, and chances are, whatever happened isn’t worth it. Holding a grudge against someone will eat you up inside, leaving in its wake only negativity, fear, anger, and rejection. Although real forgiveness is usually not easy, practicing forgiveness in your daily life is a worthy goal. When someone does something that upsets you, try to forgive them. It’s difficult, yes, but doing so will allow you to continue to focus on your own happiness and let go of the negativity brought into your life by others.
Learning how to be happy is a matter of retraining your brain to see the good in things and seek out the things that you have to be happy about. It’s not about waiting for someone to hand you happiness on a silver platter, because it’s highly unlikely that’s going to happen. Instead, get up, know you are going to be happy today, find things to be grateful for, and let it go when people hurt. When you are happy, you are unstoppable.